It is no secret that many older women date younger men for great sexual experiences. In exchange, the woman offers a share of their experience as well as freedom from too many restrictions regarding what can and cannot be done.
Contrary to what many people think, sex is in itself an art. Like any other art, it can be perfected by learning more about how it should be done.
When it comes to dating older women, tips to satisfying sex may prove very important. In any case, older women have had many sexual experiences during their lifetimes.
5 tips for great sex with an older woman
There is nothing unnatural about it
Most young men go to bed expecting something magical to be initiated by the older woman. Understand that they are just like the girls you have dated before. In fact, too many expectations may end up causing performance anxiety which will definitely ruin the sex.
Foreplay is almost everything
The intimate part of sex should take only about 20% of your time and energy. The rest should go to the efforts leading to the sex. Start by engaging in dirty talk out of the bedroom and when it is convenient. You can let her sit on your lap in the driver’s seat and such. In the house, let the moment buildup courtesy of a glass of wine or a fruit slice she is supposed to take from your mouth. Take to kissing her passionately. Get on to step by step stripping. Kiss, touch, and massage her erogenous zones. Try as much oral sex as you can before finally getting on with the sex.
Try to be the leader
Even in later ages, women sometimes feel weird to be the ones to kick start sex. Don’t let it come to that. All the same, keep a watchful eye on directions and guidance the woman provides to you from time to time.
Be adventurous as much as you can
When in bed with an older woman, it definitely isn’t the best time to be concerned about how big your member is and such. Get out of your clothes and be ready to explore any suggested idea or one that comes to mind. Try toys, different sex positions, BDSM, and such. See how she would think of climaxing even without you entering her.
Be there when needed
The funny thing about sex is that it tends to be the sweetest when not planned for. As you may come to realize, women very much enjoy lengthy dirty talks. They get them aroused and ready for actual sex. Unlike a man, arousal in women can take minutes or even hours. For this and other reasons, you really will need to get things under control. Also, be a good student and take notes on what you were taught last time.
What not to do in bed with an older woman
There are some things that can very much ruin the experience when in bed with an older woman. The problem is that once the urge for sex is gone, you have to do a lot to get the energy back.
First of all, don’t try sex positions you have not learned enough about. As much as it is about exploration, things can get really awkward when trying porn-like sex positions.
Another thing that can ruin sexual experiences with an older woman is mistaking her for your little girlfriend. Don’t even attempt creepy questions like how do you feel, how far have I gone in and questions of that nature.
It is also important for guys to raise topics such as her comfort with anal sex, oral sex, use of toys, condoms, and such.
Generally, a lack of communication is potentially the most dangerous relationships killer. When things are talked out, a solution can always be forged for the better of both parties.
When you know an older woman is ready for sex
Many older women will not shy away from making the initial sexual advances. But it can get tiring on their side to always have to jumpstart you like a robot.
Generally, examine the woman’s body language as well as her response to physical contacts. If she doesn’t seem to have a problem with caressing and kissing, it is unlikely that she will have an issue with sex.
If not certain, you can always ask her to bed. That approach will be much better than taking things into your own hands and going for it like a stallion or something.
Is it right to have sex with an older woman
If the sex is meant to earn you a ticket to the woman’s elite lifestyle, it is more wrong than it is right. In fact, you will be losing more than you will gain.
If on the other hand, you are enjoying yourself as much as the woman is, there is more right to the sex than wrong. You should continue enjoying yourselves in this case.
The bottom line is that sex with an older woman should not feel forced. Think of it this way: if someone offered you the benefits of the relationship minus the sex, would you still come back for the sex?