Legend has it that an ancient inventor, known as Archimedes, ran into the streets naked after solving a certain nature problem when taking a bath.
Most of us have had such experiences, where you have hit the jackpot after a long period of struggle. Similar to that feeling, life can’t get any better than once you have won an older woman to date.
Unfortunately enough, a good number of young men are not willing to withstand the frustrations that come with trying to seduce an older woman. In some cases, they can even get very arrogant and cruel for that matter.
7 tips for flirting to seduce an older woman
With enough motivation and the right guidelines, any woman can be seduced. This is proven with the story of the same Archimedes mentioned earlier. He is alleged to have remarked that given a place to stand, he could move the Earth (with a pivot-supported simple machine). Below are some tips that can help:
Maintain stepping before hopping
If you are familiar with medieval courtesies, better not borrow everything from them. Start a chat about natural things you know and understand well. If her dress is really worth some attention, be honest about it and don’t exaggerate.
Forget the age gap
Remember that you are approaching a woman you would take to bed if the future allows. So forget the fact that she is your senior. Maintain confident eye to eye contact. At no time should you try the pickup lines that never failed you in college or wherever you used pickup lines. With cougars, they are usually a waste of time.
Watch your dictionary
Using urban clichés to sound tough or romantic will not work. So will any choreographed dialogues meant to impress the lady. Also, watch the use of terms such as cougars or older women. Some women don’t like this title.
Identify a beauty mark on her
Any woman appreciates a genuine well-crafted compliment. The best approach is to skip any poetry and just use causal language you would have used on a girl you are familiar with.
Bring her aboard
The moment she replies, whatever tone or response it may be, know that you have taken a great step in the right direction. Show her that you are very interested in her replies and would like to continue the conversation. Let her feel appreciated, much like she is talking all the sense the world has to offer.
Remember the youth in you
Energy and youth in you are the greatest assets you have to win an older woman for yourself. Stand as close to her as comfort and personal space can allow. Let her see all you have to offer.
Dating tips to seduce an older woman
Assuming that you have won yourself a first date with an older woman, here are tips that can take the whole seduction thing a step further.
Suggest a place
Suggesting a place to go for your first date is a sign of confidence and maturity. Don’t try to look too classy with your suggestions.
Borrow one or two gentleman tricks
Before leaving your room, make sure you are in good shape to go on a date. On your way, remember to hold the door before her and such.
Develop the right mood
The best way you can achieve this is by painting a picture of the plans for a bright future you are intending to make come true. It is a good idea to quote her professionalism or role models as potential motivators for your future.
Talk about sex
It is vital that the older woman you are trying to date knows your plans for what happens later in the evening. The woman should be familiar with whatever intentions to take her to bed you have.
Bedroom tips to seduce an older woman
In the bedroom, things can get all tensed up and sometimes awkward. But that will only happen if you have not forgotten about the age gap. Here are some tips to try:
- Start with some wine drinking or just a quick episode of a TV show. It eases things up.
- When the moment is ripe, take to kissing her. The fact that she is some years your senior doesn’t mean that she can’t see what you have between your thighs.
- Lead her to the bedroom or whichever place she might have suggested she likes to have sex the most.
- Take your time before mounting her. No one needs to be reminded how sex itself is exciting to young guys. Try massage, step by step stripping, and all the foreplay you know of.
- Try to be at ease the whole time. Forget about her long-term experience and suggest new positions you know that you are also comfortable doing.
- It may not be the best time to fall asleep in her arms. Get her to want to go through the experience some other time. Also, make her know how great that experience with her was. But remember not to overdo the praises. She is a woman not some maiden princes.
Why you might succeed in seducing an older woman
- She knows what you want even before telling it. You don’t have to beat around the bush.
- She probably is dying to have sex with an energetic man, but it might be hard to say that.
- Older women like being in control.