The buildup of conversations between you and an older woman you have taken interest in is very important. It largely determines where the relationship is going.
Remember that the idea of ready dialogues, meant to better the time spent with a cougar, doesn’t usually work. Try not to prepare a script; just be yourself.
All the same, you can always learn a thing or two about topics to discuss and ones to avoid when dating an older woman.
Topics to build on with an older woman
Likes and dislikes
The things one enjoys to do are usually the best way to build an engaging conversation. In fact, you will need not force it. Start by inviting her to tell her likes and dislikes. Once she is done, take the floor and tell her what you like and dislike. Be very honest. Don’t try to seem dreamy or seductive when not applicable.
Previous dates and current attachments
Before landing on the issue of people you have ever dated, let a tale on your current attachments lead to that. Tell her of your family members and something small about your closest friends. From there, create a link that will introduce the issue of past relationships you have had. It will feel not forced. Once you are done, the woman will likely take up the trend. You can always ask them if this doesn’t work out as you had planned.
Not the future as depicted in Sci-Fi, but the future in terms of the plans you have laid ahead. This is a very important part of the conversations you have. It will be a sign of how mature you are. Don’t get unrealistic about the aim of pleasing her with a big man’s dream. Just be honest with what you want.
Adventures and explorations
Where in the world have you been? What did you come back with? What place would you like to visit again or for the first time? You can also talk about world-famous monuments. In fact, the woman you are dating can learn a thing or two about famous tourist destinations of the world.
Topics to avoid when dating an older woman
There are some topics that will end up ruining your date and perhaps your relationship with an older woman. They include:
Who can imagine the cruelty of your father for having not bought you a laptop in college? How did your friend expect you to survive without the phone he borrowed from you for all that time? Well, I guess the right question is who cares? These stories elicit a response from your older woman along the lines of ‘you are a sucker and a baby’.
Both of you are perfectly aware of the difference in years that separate you. In fact, the woman is probably more comfortable with the situation than you are. If the issue of age difference is to arise, bury the conversation by assuring her that you understand what that means relatively well.
The angel in her
If there is something an older woman has come to find out the hard way, it is the fact that unicorns are only real in children’s stories. By any chance, stop filling the air will all sorts of praises about how much you can’t get enough of her smiles and everything. If that doesn’t usually work with younger girls, just imagine what it will do to an experienced woman.
My friends and I
Maybe you would probably be holding one hell of a house party with your friends had you not met the woman. That knowledge doesn’t need to be discussed. Period.
How to hold conversations with an older woman
It gets very disappointing when a younger man is trying to impress an older woman but is just doing it the wrong way.
The best approach is to be casual and honest. If you are complimenting her, don’t overdo it for any reason. If you are talking about a certain brand of wine you once had with your dad, best to bite your tongue about its name.
Try to keep in the circles of the topics mentioned above while avoiding the lower ones. By the end of the first date, it is very likely that a bond will have developed between you two. On the next date, you can take things outdoors; take her to dancing classes for example.
When to change topics when dating an older woman
The best way to avoid conversations getting all awkward and uncomfortable is by knowing when best to change or cut conversations.
If you are not comfortable from your end, you can try changing the topic in a friendly manner. In extreme cases, you can always come out clean that you aren’t okay with the topic.
For the woman, be very keen with changes in tone and the friendliness in her replies. Never persist on a topic she is not comfortable with.
Remember that older women are not that sensitive to some teenage-like feelings. They will likely ask tough and sometimes cruel questions often enough.